Past Participle

Generally speaking, idealization is an attribute of pastness. Thus, a nostalgic corona may surround inchoate adolescent romance—which lacks the existential weight of the more protracted relationships occurring in maturity. That which hasn’t come into being has an unfair advantage over reality since it allows the imagination to fill in the empty spaces. But there's something else. "The past isn’t dead, it isn’t even past,” is the famous Faulkner quote. “The past is another country,” said L.P. Hartley, the author of The Go-Between, eventually a Joseph Losey film, with script by Pinter. “They do things differently there.” Love in the Western World is the title of the famous Denis De Rougement tome, but what occurs over millennia is the result of the evolution of sensibility.You remember the highly charged moment of passion, but besides the main dish, there are all the fixings. The lovers in A Man and A Woman, the blockbuster foreign film of l966 would seem like Martians to a couple negotiating their "inner children" today

read "The First Law of Emotional Thermodynamics: Longing is Directly Proportional to Self-Hatred" by Francis Levy, HuffPost

and listen to "You Make Me Feel (Mighty Real)"by Sylvester