To Have and Have Not

For some people it takes years to learn that you're not going to get that call. Others, and one would suspect this is a minority, learn this early on in life and instinctively know when it’s time to let go of an impossibility. Put as a spiritual axiom: when you're waiting for something it will, in all likelihood, never occur. Love comes into your life not because it's farfetched but rather when it’s in the realm of possibility. The same thing applies to jobs and other achievements that one might aspire towards. Most happenstance tends to come about when you're not waiting for it.  Generally the kind of romantics who value what doesn’t exist more than what's placed before them live in a state of pain because of their unattainable desires. Even a worse problem comes when these dreamers get lucky and roll snake eyes. They’re faced with the futility of the wager on which their existence is predicated--since they're likely to reject what they've won. But how does one extract oneself from exhausting situations which are both addictive and unpromising? How does one learn to want what one has? 

Read "Pornosophy: Was Madame Bovary a Nymphomaniac?" by Francis Levy, HuffPost