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Kierkegaard |
Is guilt a time-bound emotion? When you express guilt about
indulging in sweets, in anger, in infidelity, you are directing attention to
the negative effects that will occur in some future time, ie gain of weight,
pimples, diabetes, reprisal for over the top expressions of emotion, or for
being caught
in flagrante. On the other hand you can also be guilty about
something that has occurred in the past. In looking back over your actions, you feel guilty about the way you
treated your friend, wife or neighbor. Even
though this type of retrospective guilt is time bound, it is not motivated by
the fear of punishment or reprisal. Whatever has happened has already happened
and you are filled with a kind of remorse for your behavior, which one might
say is its own punishment, but which rarely has any
materialized consequence. You might have slept with your neighbor’s wife, but
unless you tell him, the secret will forever be kept by his wife and you. You can also look back at the time you ate all the cake and left
none for anyone else. But if the cake vanished without anyone ever knowing
it existed, it’s more a matter of having to live with what this tells you about your
own greedy nature, rather than fearing any repercussions. However whether you are feeling guilty or feeling in danger
of being guilty as charged, you have effectively removed yourself from the
present tense. When you say you feel guilty about x, y or z, you may think you
are talking about the present, but you are essentially exiled from your immediate emotions, fixated on the future or the past. This
avoidance of the present is not the only function of guilt, but it is
one of its most significant by-products.
ah, guilt...the thief of the present moment. This blog entry has started an entire chain reaction of thoughts and contemplations on guilt, remorse and self-indulgence. My brain is whirling with it all. Thanks for a meaningful mental exercise to start off 2013.
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